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Comment on There is such a thing as trying too hard by sportstide.com

sportstide.com — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 03:19:09 +0000

There is such a thing as trying too hard : Golf Is Supposed To Be Fun * Rand Marquardt…

“Lighten up Rand you ’re taking this way too serious,” Neale Donald Walsch. It’s true I was taking my spirituality way too seriously. You know what, I’ve been taking my life way too seriously too. Come to think about it, I’ve been taking my…

Comment on Life and Golf are supposed to be fun – right now! by Jeffrey Mocini

Jeffrey Mocini — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 02:42:14 +0000

I really read this post long and slowly; I’m just coming off a terrible 2nd round qualifier and now I find myself at the bottom of the board with 2 rounds left; For some reason I had to feel like I had to set the world on fire today and shoot something really well… But when things didn’t go right, such as three unplayable shots in the pine trees, I basically hit it to hell in a haybasket… Then I realized I’m not happy out there and needed to change it. Thanks for the post, it may be the ‘enlightenment’ I need.

Comment on Recognizing Communication Breakdown in Golf & Life by Jeffrey Mocini

Jeffrey Mocini — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 03:46:11 +0000

I can see how communication on the golf course carries over to other things in life. I know for me that has been something I have worked on for years ever since I’ve gotten serious about the game of golf when I was a sophomore in high school. I used to really beat myself up when I made just one mistake out there on the course. I know you have seen my infamous reactions a few years ago, but I’ve come a long way since then, where it’s either, a) I know I can get out of trouble or b) Everything is going to be okay. I was thinking of some of the rare times this year where my emotions got the best of me on the golf course and I had experienced a similar situation this summer with a female.

Sure, I had fun talking to her for three weeks on the phone and texting her during that time span, but when I found out I wasn’t her type after we met, my reaction was similar to having a 4 putt bogey on a par 5, which means it was very negative and upsetting. After reading this blog, it made me realize how important keeping my composure on the golf course is not only for damage control purposes, but for relationships with the people around you as well. So I got a lot out of this blog and look forward to the next one.

Comment on Recognizing Communication Breakdown in Golf & Life by Rand Marquardt

Rand Marquardt — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 13:01:51 +0000

Yes, Kelly, and the moment we stop judging others or thinking God is judging us is the moment we stop judging ourselves.

I prefer a new perspective…it’s called observing…simply observing. It was Jesus who said profoundly, “Do not judge and you will not be judged.” I still catch myself “judging” in the slightest minute ways as I am growing and evolving. Nothing to beat myself up over anymore…just choosing a new way next time. Marianne Williamson also said growth can be and usually is messy. I now welcome that growth and make it my friend.

Make it my friend…the way we communicate with ourselves on the golf course about the golf course makes all the difference in the world as well. At The 2008 Open championship both Paul Azinger and Tom Watson commented about the wind. Azinger said you’ve got to “embrace” the wind. Watson said make the wind your friend.

A simple shift in perception and perspective changes everything.

Comment on Recognizing Communication Breakdown in Golf & Life by Kelly Trierweiler

Kelly Trierweiler — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 10:28:41 +0000

Hi Rand, your latest post was just awesome. What excellent points; haven’t we all had someone’s flip comment bust us down, or had a compliment make us smile for days.

A phrase that has stuck with me for years came from Marianne Williamson’s “On Transformation” talk. She was discussing how people go on and on about the away their parents criticized them when they were children…I expected some of the usual “let it go” that we hear from everyone else, but instead she said “The way your parents judged you is NOTHING compared to the way YOU judge you. Your parents may have been critical, but you are VICIOUS to yourself.” She sure got me thinking, and that comment still resonates nearly twenty years later…. All the best, K

Comment on Recognizing Communication Breakdown in Golf & Life by Rand Marquardt

Rand Marquardt — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 11:11:16 +0000

And sometimes it can be quite challenging to keep your cool when everything seems to be spiraling out of control. I recently played in a “tournament type environment,” a member - member event, and noticed how scared I had gotten. I wanted to do so well. Afterall, I’m the guru who wrote the book, coach others, and give seminars. I feel this added pressure (that I placed upon myself) is something that I need to work on. Anyhow, my first nine seemed almost surreal. Like, I can’t believe this is happening to me. I practically forgot how to swing and my confidence was at an all time low. I even took a ‘9′ on one hole, which means I post a ‘6′ on the par 4. Well, even though I felt really awful I persevered. I did lose my composure some and ended up slamming the seed/fertilizer bottle back into the cart after another mishit on hole # 11. The plastic cap broke. This moment will be another moment to embrace that will make me a better person. After that hole I embraced what I had and went 3 under the last 7 holes. What could of very easily been a 100, I ended up posting 79. So, I just wanted to let you know that I am human (no better than anyone else), just becoming a little bit better than I used to be. Hey, Tiger vents on occasion too! Get yourself back to center and back to the present moment. This too shall come to pass - embrace the highs and lows and be grateful for what you do have. I am that!

Comment on Tiger Did It Again by Rand Marquardt

Rand Marquardt — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 15:05:56 +0000

What we project in other athletes that we admire, also lies within each of us. If we simply project it others and not in ourselves we give away our power. Therefore, awaken to more of who you really are by taking back your own power. Likewise, what we see in another that is less than admirable lies also within each of us. Once we recognize this aspect, acknowledge it, integrate it, and love it - thanking it for showing us another way, we don’t have to suppress it any longer. Yes, what lies within Tiger - what makes Tiger tick - lies within each of us. If you don’t believe it, then that’s the problem. Your thoughts?